Fearless Living eZine - Lessons from The Secret, the Law of Attraction and Having Fun

Issue #14

Are You the Author of Your Life?

SelfDesign for My Family

Exploring Options for Learning

Are You the Author of Your Life?

Are you self-directing your life or taking directions from others? Do you invest your time rather than spend your time? Do you know how if feels to spring out of bed in the morning, loving your life and excited about the day ahead?

What keeps lots of us from authoring our own lives are the "shoulds" that we carry around with us. These are judgements and opinions that we picked up from our parents, teachers, bosses, and other people who we see in positions of authority. Most of these shoulds conflict with our inner desires and higher purposes.

We often feel bad when we don't do something we think we "should". We feel worse when we do something we think we should, but it is not aligned with our higher purpose.

“It is easy in the world to live after the world's opinions; it is easy in solitude to live after your own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude” - Ralph Waldo Emerson

To author your own life, you must learn to stay in tune with your own soul. How do you connect with your soul? Or your inner compass, heart, intuition - use whatever words feel good to you.

To author your life, you need to be paying attention. Allow yourself to be present to every moment of your life. I meditate for 10 minutes twice a day and do body scans and body movement practices to stay in touch with the sensations in my body. In this way, I know what it feels like for me to be grounded, centered, peaceful. Then I notice when something disturbs my peace.

Think of yourself as a pond of still water - shimmering in the sunlight like a piece of glass. When a thought or emotion breaks the water, pay attention to what is going on. Are you feeling fear, anxiety, anger, sadness? Welcome any emotion that you notice. Allow yourself to feel it. Then let it go.

This week, notice when your peace is disturbed and when you are operating from a place of "I should". Breathe into the feelings, allow yourself to welcome the feelings and then allow yourself to let them go. (I will focus on the letting go process in my next newsletter.) Then, ask yourself what your heart/soul/higher being wants. Ask yourself what will help your soul to grow? What choice will make you expand and not contract? Trust yourself as you author your life.

SelfDesign for My Family

I wear lots of hats. Life coach, mother, wife, and strategy consultant. I recently took a short break from these newsletters to work with SelfDesign.com to help them bring their award-winning learning program out into the world beyond British Columbia. And I'd like share my journey with SelfDesign and how our family is SelfDesigning our lives together. SelfDesign, in early January and knew immediately that I had found an educational model that was powerfully unique. I wanted it for my two young daughters and I wanted it for myself. After some great conversations, I started working with SelfDesign.com to expand their learning programs outside of British Columbia. SelfDesign launched Global Learning Programs for 200 children and we enrolled my 6-year old daughter Sage in the Integral Learning Program for ages 6-14.

So far, my husband and I have had one video conference with our Learning Consulant (think enlightened teacher with experience and compassion) and in our 45-minute chat I learned so much about myself and my "shoulds" about learning and schooling. I learned that it is far more important for my young daughter to develop passion around her interests than to perfect the techniques immediately. Sage loves decorating cakes. And I often get uptight while helping her, because I want all the writing to be legible and the flowers to look like flowers. What a fun buster I am. Why not just get all gooey and sticky and have a blast decorating cakes with my daughter? What is going to encourage her to pursue her intersts in life - having fun or doing it "right".

I hear from so many parents that their children enter kindergarten excited, ready to learn, with a bright light sparkling in their eyes. After a few years of school, many of these children are shadows of their former selves.

With SelfDesign, I am learning how to help my daughter author her own life and regaining the capacity to author my own - all of this in community with other SelfDesigning families and with the support of an amazing Learning Consultant.

Exploring Options for Learning

I invite you to download a valuable report that I wrote, at no charge to you. Exploring Options for Learning chronicles my seven-year odyssey as I explored all of the school and non-school options for my daughter Sage. Caprice Pitcher

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